Pretending you might have a future together will just prolong the break-up process. If he knows your cat's name, that you like to be bitten, or that you like ketchup on your eggs, it's gotten too involved to abruptly cut him off. Wow, so many strong and divergent opinions on my first AskMeFi question! I don't care, I think email dumping is a lame and shitty thing to do. If I got dumped after just a few dates I'd prefer a kind email - that way he doesn't see me get upset or hear my voice get all shaky on the phone. If he has no indication that the relationship isn't progressing as well as he thinks it is, it will be confusing and hurtful when he receives no closure and no attempt at an explanation.
It is impossible to force yourself to like someone.
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I want to add that a "heads up" in the form of "we need to talk" is a must. Why waste her time meeting or talking on the phone if there is no chance you'll stay together? If you suggest a short daylight date like coffee or a walk she'll probably see what's coming. Yes, he'll probably get an idea right then that things aren't working for you and that's fine. I've gotten a few thanks-but-no-thanks e-mails after 4 or 5 promising dates, and I didn't think that was distasteful, even if we've just made out. Hang up, deep breath, move on.